Do you ever find yourself criticizing yourself and feeling terrible about yourself?
We’ve all experienced it.
I used to be this way, and it was really unproductive.
So now, we are going to stop.
Today, you are going to start having your own back. I’ll show you how to do it and give you five reasons why it’s important to have your own back.
1. “Not Having Your Own Back” Is Not Good
What’s strange is how much we hurt ourselves while we’re not mindful of what we’re thinking.
It’s time to rebuild your power from the pessimistic voice in your mind. The voice that tells you you’re broken, that something is wrong with you, or that your body isn’t working properly.
Not having your own back means self doubt, admitting mistakes, and not supporting yourself. Guess what? It’s a negative emotion to create when you want to hope or talk about positive emotions instead.
2. You Need To Break The Cycle Of Self-Criticism
The cycle of beating yourself up is counterproductive.
It doesn’t help.
It is harmful to beat oneself up. It’s similar to hitting oneself in the face.
Where does this bad pattern appear in your life? Where do you struggle to develop a positive self-image?
To be honest, noticing these ideas may take a while since they are not unusual for you.
Be curious and attentive. Write down whatever you think during the day.
Ask yourself these questions to discover how you see yourself in each area.
Eating:
How do you feel about food? What is the state of your connection with food and your body?
Drinking:
For what reasons do you drink? Do you tend to overdrink when you do?
Connections:
How are your personal relationships going? Are they uplifting or depressing you?
Do you ever feel like you’re never generating enough money? Do you have a positive attitude about money?
3. Acceptance Could Be Working Against You
Many of us have been taught to “accept” ourselves. Women worldwide have been fighting and making a stand on how they must be treated.
This is all well and good until you’re willing to admit that you ignore yourself.
Hatred and ego are choices.
Wishing you were different from you is a sneaky way of telling yourself that there is something wrong with you and that you should be better.
You have nothing to be ashamed about. Nothing about you is worth disliking or not appreciating.
There’s a lot to adore about you. And everyone else.
4. You Should Be Proud Of Yourself
Look for and write down reasons to feel proud of yourself. You’re incredible, and the only person who needs to realize that is YOU!
Develop your brain’s ability to feel proud of yourself.
Ask yourself why you must feel proud, and don’t be embarrassed if you come up with a lot of them.
Being proud of oneself does not imply believing you are superior to others. You may be proud of both yourself and other people.
You don’t have to change the world with your deeds, but you never know how much of one person’s world you may change simply by helping them.
5. You Never Know Who Is Looking, Observing, And Secretly Adoring You
Because sometimes the people around us lack the guts to pursue this for themselves, we must come to their help, just as we hoped others would do for us before we discovered our inner strength.
Every emotion we project into the environment is sensed, whether gently or strongly. Positive energy is always spreading.
You never know who you could be influencing—you might be someone’s role model, which would be surprisingly great.
3 Steps To Practice For Having Your Own Back
Having your own back means being proud of yourself.
It includes believing in oneself.
It entails accepting your value even when you make errors.
When you glance in the mirror, are alone, or make a mistake, these are all moments to treat yourself with respect and love.
Here are 3 things you can do right now to practice having your own back…
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Respect Yourself And Love Yourself
Identify the times when you feel ashamed and meet them with love instead of adding to your guilt with destructive comments.
I spent much time beating myself up about having an extra glass of prosecco on a certain night out.
I resolved never to feel ashamed about it again.
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Make A “Love list” Of 100 Things You Like And Value About Yourself
You’ll be excellent at whatever you practice thinking about yourself.
If you think negatively about yourself, you’ll become better at hating yourself.
When you practice appreciating and loving yourself, you will have enough love in your cup to overflow into other areas of your life.
If you find this list challenging, it simply implies you haven’t put in enough practice time.
Consider the first time you went to a tough fitness class. You awoke the following morning weary yet happy. The farther you traveled, the stronger you were.
This list is like your first visit to the mental gym. You’re going to work on being friendlier, kinder, and more loving to yourself.
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Be Prepared To Face Opposition And Hurdles
When old bad behaviors resurface, remind yourself that you deserve better.
“No, I’m not doing it anymore,” you say. “I’ve got my own back.”
This exercise will assist you in being more conscious of how you treat yourself. It will shed light on the areas of your life where you feel unworthy and treat yourself accordingly.
Here’s a vital message: You deserve more than you realize in EVERY aspect of your life.
Start treating yourself like a close friend and start having your own back.
Final Thoughts
Lastly, find your focus and direction.
You are more likely to have concentration and direction in your life when you are always yourself. Consider someone who is continually responding to other people’s expectations; do you believe this person has direction and focus? No, I don’t think so.
When you remain true to yourself, you are more likely to know what you want to achieve and how to get there. You can remain focused and know which path to pursue to achieve your goal.
No matter what happens in life, the only constant is you.
