We have all gone through an emotional rollercoaster when trying to talk to women. Do I often get asked how to talk to women? Yes! A surprising amount of men ask me and others that same question.
Well, I am here to tell you that there are ways to make it easier and increase your chances of getting another date.
You don’t have to just be good-looking or be an extremely funny guy either. You just need to start talking, have a great conversation, listen to a few things, and most importantly don’t rub her the wrong way.
I have spent enough time talking, so let’s dive into the 9 ways to be more “successful” when talking to women.
How Do You Talk To A Woman?
1. Look For The Real Person Deep Within
Don’t let the outer shell of us as humans confuse you. Deep within all of us, there is a perfect version of how we do things and how we operate as an individual.
A majority of us carry baggage from our past, however, they are not things that define us as people.
We have all gone through something at one point or another, and we take pride in being able to overcome those obstacles. This is the same for talking to a woman. We want to focus on looking past the shell and the baggage they might have and see them for the perfect person they are deep down.
For most, being able to see the perfect person they are deep inside makes communication so much easier. We are all human after all, Right?
If the person you are getting to know makes it difficult for you to access that perfect person, it might be time to move on and find someone willing to open up a little more. We want to use this method to help us avoid the face these people present when meeting people, and get to know the real them.
2. Take Your Time With Building Common Ground & Understanding
Building common ground is one of those skills you want to make good use of. To achieve this, try going somewhere like an event or even just to your local supermarket, where you have to interact with other people. When you are doing this, find something you like about the person you are talking to.
We often find that women like things like jewelry, and they spend both the time and effort into finding something that goes with what they are wearing for that day. Bring it up in conversation casually, and give them a compliment about the choice they made.
You have now built some common ground with this person by noticing something they do probably daily, and it will help lead into building a more engaging conversation.
3. Let Them Talk about Themselves
This part is easy for most people. Often times we want to tell everyone about ourselves but here it is important for us to sit back, listen, and ask questions related to what is being said.
Let’s use an example. You met a woman at a supermarket and you just commented on her choice of jewelry.
They often follow up with a story about how they got the item, like “This was my grandmother’s ring.” This allows you to follow up with something like, “Wow, your grandmother had great taste.” Say something you know she could relate to, to help keep the conversation going.
At this point, it might be tempting to steer the conversation toward you, but this is all about her. Every time you see this person, make sure to keep the same behavior going and over time you will notice that you are becoming more like friends.
4. Avoid Talking About Subjects You Do Not Agree With
It has happened to all of us. We are having a wonderful conversation, and someone brings up a new topic. You state your opinion proudly, thinking the others will agree. You look around, only to find that they are not in agreement with you. At this point, it becomes uncomfortable to talk about our opposing viewpoints.
Let’s say you landed a date from all your experience of listening to the person you are talking to. This is great news; however, you want to make sure to keep the momentum going. We do not want to blow this with ego and try to impress her with who we are. Instead, we want to focus on the things we can agree on, and build a conversation around that.
We all know one of the things nobody likes to talk about is politics, at least in the beginning. It is best to avoid this subject. We as people have usually heard that there are a few things that we don’t talk about. Politics, Religion, and Sports.
Sticking with the things you guys have in common, and keeping the conversation light-hearted is the best way to land another date.
5. Respect Her Personal Space
This is one of the most important things about talking to a woman. Respect Her Personal Space. Plain and Simple. Most women have had men try to shoot their shot and that can ultimately go nowhere.
This has made it where she feels she needs to be guarded. You want to move in slowly, and make sure you only do it as she feels comfortable.
To her, she may see that you attempting to violate her limits early on as a red flag. So Stay Chill.
6. Handle Your Personal Hygiene
Don’t look like you just rolled out of bed. We shouldn’t have to talk about personal hygiene, as I am sure you are aware of what needs to be done. But this does make a huge difference. Here are a few things you can do to increase your personal hygiene:
- Check your teeth
- Comb your hair
- Pay attention to your wardrobe
- Respect yourself
Why are these important? Making sure you are presentable is a must. Pair that with self-respect and making sure you are ready to go is a must.
7. Are Gifts An Option?
We know that almost everyone likes to receive a gift, but sometimes they can be unwelcome. For the first few dates, it is totally acceptable to do flowers or something small.
We want to set realistic expectations up front. We never want to put her in a situation where she feels like she has to do something for you because you have done stuff for her.
If you really want to impress her, offer to do little things that will make an impact on her life. Offer to wash and clean her car. See what kind of movies she likes, or the music she listens to.
8. Be Sure To Choose Wisely!
You want to think ahead before getting serious with the person in your life. Stick with someone that is more warm-hearted, loving, and has a great sense of humor.
Often times this will make life more enjoyable than living with someone that went completely psycho after the first year or so. Find someone that you feel you can completely depend on.
9. Is She Interested? Move On If Not.
Sometimes to us, we find someone that we feel is “The One”. But we need to be sure they are interested. We want to clear this step as soon as possible to avoid the possible heartache.
If she makes it absolutely clear that she is not ready for a relationship, that is totally fine. We must respect that and move on.
My Final Thoughts
Now that you have the 9 most important steps to talk to women, go forth and try these the next time you are looking to talk to a woman in your life.
Remember to love yourself and others around you.